Assume attraction. You know that you are sexy, and no matter if she’s “taken”, lesbian, a happy single, she likes to feel desirable. You’re in a position to give her that feeling. You can open up the interaction with a line as simple as this: “Hi. What’s your name?” You can also establish a mystery: “You’re drinking green tea, right? That tells me a lot about your personality.” Then don’t tell her what it is. Right before approaching, you can start humming or softly singing to yourself, it bridges the gap between not speaking and speaking – you’re already in “talk mode” when you say your first words to her.
Tease Her (But Don’t “Neg”)
Playful teasing is a great way to break the ice and get her smiling and laughing. If she says something like “My friends sent me to the bar to get their drinks,” you can respond with “Jeez, sounds like they needed a break from you!”
Alternatively, you can make it even lighter hearted and play it safe by accusing her of staring at your butt while you were making a point.
Make sure not to overdo the teasing, though; you’re trying to flirt with her, not roast her at the Friar’s Club. Speaking of which, you iliar with the term “negging.” If not, here’s how Wikipedia describes it: [R]
“Negging is a rhetorical strategy whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise insulting remark to another person in order to undermine their confidence in a way that gains approval.”
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