Signifying you’re interested in someone takes guts, but there’s so much reward to be had. Beyond the obvious-a potential relationship-you can walk away having learned something about yourself. Here, ELLE readers share how taking a chance taught them something.
« I had just quit my job, moved to a new city, started my MBA, and broken up with my longterm boyfriend. I was very much starting fresh and embracing new experiences. When I saw Wyle, I was immediately drawn to him. I’m pretty shy, and it’s not really my nature to asiandating aanbieding make the first move, but I decided since I was already so far out of my comfort zone with all the changes in my life, why not just go for it? I walked up to him after class, introduced myself, and offered to drive him home. We hit it off immediately. I had actually attended undergrad in the same city a couple years before that, so I knew the city well and offered to show him around as an excuse to hang out with him more.
« I had just quit my job, moved to a new city, started my MBA, and broken up with my longterm boyfriend. I was very much starting fresh and embracing new experiences. When I saw Wyle, I was immediately drawn to him. I’m pretty shy, and it’s not really my nature to make the first move, but I decided since I was already so far out of my comfort zone with all the changes in my life, why not just go for it? I walked up to him after class, introduced myself, and offered to drive him home. We hit it off immediately. I had actually attended undergrad in the same city a couple years before that, so I knew the city well and offered to show him around as an excuse to hang out with him more.
I don’t know what would have happened if I didn’t make that first move, but I’ve learned that it’s so important to go after what you want, not just in relationships, but with everything
« I was opposed to online dating for a long time, but I just wasn’t having luck meeting people organically. I loved that Bumble was started by a woman who was sick of being bombarded with a lot of messages, and, for me, being able to reach out when I felt comfortable was a relief. It allowed me to really think about whom I wanted to start a conversation with.
After matching with Ben, we talked for about a month. Our schedules were really busy, which was a blessing because we got to know each other before we met in real life. When we finally met, we went to a little barbecue joint and it wasn’t awkward at all. Like a lot of women, I complained [about being single], but now my theory is, I f I’m not putting myself out there, if I’m not trying, I can’t complain. »
I don’t know what would have happened if I didn’t make that first move, but I’ve learned that it’s so important to go after what you want, not just in relationships, but with everything
« I was opposed to online dating for a long time, but I just wasn’t having luck meeting people organically. I loved that Bumble was started by a woman who was sick of being bombarded with a lot of messages, and, for me, being able to reach out when I felt comfortable was a relief. It allowed me to really think about whom I wanted to start a conversation with.